Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all solution, and what works for one person may not work for another. The effectiveness of therapy can vary from person to person and depends on the specific circumstances and goals of the individual seeking help.
A good therapist possesses a range of personal qualities, professional skills, and ethical principles that make them effective and supportive in helping clients meet their emotional and psychological needs.
During the first meeting with a psychologist/therapist, you should be presented with a contract outlining, among other things, the rules for scheduling and canceling appointments, payment terms, and maintaining confidentiality. Offering advice to the client is not always the best approach. However, it is different when the client explicitly expresses a desire to benefit from the psychologist’s knowledge. A good therapist will respect your time, you as a person, and your readiness for the therapeutic process.
The sense of acceptance, respect, and being heard — as well as the ability to share your worst thoughts or experiences during a safe session — are the best indicators for assessing the therapist you are working with.
A good therapist encourages self-therapy and aims to help the client regain independence, self-confidence, and the strength to live as quickly as possible after the therapeutic process ends. You might receive homework assignments such as reading a book, keeping a journal, or listening to podcasts.
One sign of a therapist’s maturity is the ability to admit when they are unable to help. It’s important to know that this is not about you personally. It may happen that the therapist chooses to be truthful, wishing to respect your time, and acknowledges that a particular type of disorder or illness is not within their expertise. It is worth discussing your concerns with the therapist and exploring alternative approaches or providers.
A therapist does not necessarily need to be a certified psychotherapist or hold a master’s degree in psychology. This is, however, my personal opinion. I have met many therapists and psychotherapists without formal psychotherapy or psychology degrees who were, for example, graduates in pedagogy with 20 years of experience working in schools — and they still provide effective help.
Remember that finding the right therapist can be a personal process based on subjective experience. It is important for those seeking therapy to find a therapist who fits their needs, goals, and personal preferences.
